The Potential State Podcast - Enriching Relationships

Why is it hard for us to believe change in our partners? The Natural/Fake Eithor

November 08, 2020 Galit Romanelli and Assael Romanelli, Ph.D.
The Potential State Podcast - Enriching Relationships
Why is it hard for us to believe change in our partners? The Natural/Fake Eithor
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The Potential State Podcast - Enriching Relationships
Why is it hard for us to believe change in our partners? The Natural/Fake Eithor
Nov 08, 2020
Galit Romanelli and Assael Romanelli, Ph.D.

Why is it that when our partner tries to change their behavior, we so often shoot it down, claiming its "fake"?
Because often we have this dichotomous thinking (Eithor) that if our partner doesn't do it naturally then they're faking it.
But every new behavior will feel somewhat fake because if it was natural for us, we would've done it already!
What is the solution?
To soften our Natural/Fake Eithor.

In this talk, Galit and I explain how this Eithor is created and how it prevents couples from growing and evolving.
Examples are given from the clinic and our marriage.
Practical tips will help you become more open and positive about the behavioral change of your partner.

Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!
Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.

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Show Notes

Why is it that when our partner tries to change their behavior, we so often shoot it down, claiming its "fake"?
Because often we have this dichotomous thinking (Eithor) that if our partner doesn't do it naturally then they're faking it.
But every new behavior will feel somewhat fake because if it was natural for us, we would've done it already!
What is the solution?
To soften our Natural/Fake Eithor.

In this talk, Galit and I explain how this Eithor is created and how it prevents couples from growing and evolving.
Examples are given from the clinic and our marriage.
Practical tips will help you become more open and positive about the behavioral change of your partner.

Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!
Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael

Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)